Jerome Elam’s story came to my attention just as I am training on the Effects of Domestic Violence on Children. What the research shows is how often boys between ages 7-10 adopt the characteristics of their abusive male parent. Then, in their teen and adult relationships, they continue to follow the same patterns. They abuse their partners and often their children.
When I read Jerome’s story of witnessing his mother being beaten by his father, I was deeply moved. Jerome understood the effects of DV on his young mind and chose to get the therapy he needed to create a healthy life. He chose a road many men who are effected by DV could definitely follow.
Now, as a first time parent, he can create a different life for his child; a life free from witnessing domestic violence. His willingness to seek help and break the pattern of DV in his family is definitely a role model for other men who witnessed DV as children. Thank you Jerome for taking steps to heal and sharing your life story.
What are you doing to create healing in your life if you were abused? How do you encourage your family members and friends to seek help if they witnessed DV as children?
Still looking for ways to help? Check out “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey”, a workbook to help you or someone you love to move forward on their healing journey.
Peacefully yours,
Dr. Debra W. and the VTC Team
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